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This is one of the great wonders of the world.

If you were to take a goldfish out of a fishbowl in your home and let it go free in a big pond or lake, you would be very surprised to see that the goldfish would continue to swim in a small circle roughly the size of your fish bowl at home.

Now, why is it so, you may ask?

Because, while in the fishbowl, whenever the goldfish tried to swim further, it would bump into the glass.

After doing this for so many times it would invariably give up trying to swim further.

The goldfish now believes that this is how it has always been and that it is not possible for it to be any other way.

This has now become the belief of the goldfish.

We human beings are no different.  Our beliefs have become so ingrained in us that we decide in our subconscious mind that something is not possible and of course that is what becomes our reality.

Questioning our beliefs means that we have to question our own limitations.

If they serve us then all is fine and if they don’t serve us then it is time to replace them with beliefs that do.

Some of the biggest ” popular beliefs” out there is that it is very difficult to make money, It is very

difficult to get out of debt, we need money to make money, it’s so difficult to be successful in a recession or that the challenges we have are too difficult to surmount.

We’re still thinking like the goldfish even though we are free.

Bob Marley says ” Emancipate yourself from mental slavery”.

Look at your hands -do you see any shackles?  Look at your feet are they tied together?

What is holding you back?  Your limiting beliefs of course.  Your limitations are set by your beliefs.

Most people want to know: ” How can one tell for sure if what one believes is true or not?”.

The question to ask is really simple:

1.  How does this belief serve me?

2.  Is this belief moving me towards my dreams and aspirations?

3.  Or is this belief moving me away from my dreams and aspirations?

There is a Turkish proverb that paraphrased says : if you are on the wrong road turn back.

Here is this week’s to do list:

Look at the three questions above and ask yourself:

Is what I am thinking and feeling moving me towards or away from my dreams and aspirations?

Is how I am behaving moving me towards or away from my dreams and aspirations?

Are the results of my actions moving me towards or away from my dreams and aspirations.

Think about this and see what you need to change to get back on track towards those dreams

So get out of the fishbowl and live!

Dr Ken Onu is the CEO and founder of Attract Freedom. An organization with the sole purpose of empowering others to Personal  Freedom and Prosperity. An Ophthalmologist by profession, he is a keen speaker, communicator, entrepreneur and an aspiring author. Coming soon Free personal development sessions => http://www.attractfreedom.com. Register early!

We  have been told clarity is the key to fulfilling our desires and goals.

when we think of who we are today and who we can be tomorrow  we have to think of two different people

Someone once said to get something different you have to become someone different. So how do we bring the two together?

1. Being absolutely clear about who we are and what we want

2. Focusing on helping others

3. Aligning our thoughts with our feelings, our behaviours and our actions

4. Acting on our desires even if we are afraid.

5. Getting it going even if its not yet perfect.

6. Taking personal responsibility for everything in our lives.

7. Having the right positive and enthusiastic attitude

 

The bad news is, we usually do not use the tools we are blessed with in the right manner. When doubt and fear show up we go into a lower version of ourselves.

The only way to bring the two different people closer together is working only on the highest and best versions of ourselves  through our thoughts , feelings and actions. Implementing them 24/7, so that the obstacles become speed bumps and not mountains.  

If we work on this every day. we will be better at it today than we were yesterday, and we know we will be even better tomorrow.  The more dedicated we are to using the “tools” everyday, the closer we get to realizing and manifesting our true potential.  

Here is this week’s “to-do list” :  

Memorize the list above and check in with yourself throughout the day.  

Are your actions aligned with the thoughts you think, the words you speak and the things you do?

I am working on mine, hope youre working on yours too

 

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Ken Onu

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Do You Feed Negativity? – By Joyce Shafer   

When negativity knocks at your door, do you recognize it and send it away? Or do you invite it in for dinner, or worse, to stay with you as long as it likes–possibly for your lifetime?

First, be clear that being the manager of negativity in your life isn’t about the fact that you have negative thoughts or feelings–you will. It isn’t about eliminating negative thoughts and feelings so you never experience them again–that’s not realistic. It is about training your conscious mind to notice such thoughts and feelings when they appear, and to recognize the different “costumes” negativity wears. You can’t manage negativity until you recognize and own how you engage it.

Whatever costume negativity puts on, what’s really embodied is fear. You might call it anger or another emotion, but underlying any negative emotion is fear–the fear you’ll lose something. This has everything to do with living in your personal power.

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, “Natural anger lasts for only about seventeen seconds.” This means the actual emotion you feel (any negative emotion) has its full-charge expression for that period of time. Past that, your conscious (and subconscious) mind takes over, usually engaging in reactions related to whatever fear was triggered.

When fear is triggered, you may project a negative future vision. You may pull up old memories to support why you feel the way you do. You’d call this justification for the reaction. What it really is, is feeding negativity–because you aren’t focused on what you can do that’s productive; you’re focused on self-preservation at any cost. Depending on your habitual reaction mode, you may close up like a telescope or let your sharp claws and teeth out.

Here are several common forms of negativity you may feed (or feed on):
• Prejudice of ANY kind (race, religion, financial status, etc.)
• Demonstrating lack of self-respect or respect for others (if you do one, you do the other)
• Unproductive criticism (everyone needs to vent; but there’s a productive way to do this)
• Replaying past events as though they’re still happening (which only triggers more negative emotions in the present)
• Allowing more “news” into your life than you really need to know (this includes any form of “entertainment” or “information” that creates extraneous negative feelings for you about anything that doesn’t have a direct impact on your life or how you choose to engage it)
• Intentionally negative “humor” or comments (sadly, the ability to slam someone with hurtful words, directly or indirectly, is considered a prized trait)
• Paying more attention to what others are doing than what you’re doing
• Telling jokes or using comments to bash others (gender-bashing is top of this list)
• Stating speculations then acting as though they’re facts (ignoring that maybe you don’t have enough information)
• Using the words “always” and “never” (or labels), especially when you assign them to others’ behaviors (which closes your mind to allowing they “could” one day be different)

You can add more to this list as they occur to you. A good question to ask yourself whenever you do one of these is, “What fear is underneath this for me, and how can I address it appropriately?”

Feeding negativity is a learned habit. You can:
1. Acknowledge you engage in it.
2. Remind yourself to get your own attention about this. Author Guy Finley said, “No intention can be any stronger than our ability to remember it in the moment that it is needed.”
3. Start now to begin to do things differently. Choose to ask if your attitude, words, and actions are aligned with opening the path for a desired productive experience and outcome. There’s a difference in telling someone you feel angry and why and asking them to participate in a mutually beneficial resolution, and verbally attacking them. There’s a difference in telling yourself what you feel, why you feel it, and considering what you can do rather than entering the negative vortex.
4. Consider how you really see your authentic self. It isn’t that you have to suppress your personality or nature. It isn’t that you have to deny and keep quiet about what you really feel. It’s about what you do from there and how you do it. What do you really want to feed–as your experience and what you believe about yourself? If you don’t believe in your personal power, and right to live from it, how can you expect to act from there?

Train yourself to respond more often than you react; and acknowledge that will take conscious energy management. Reactions happen when you feel events or others have more power than you do. They don’t; that’s an illusion. They can only have as much power over you as you give them.

Any person or event that tests your personal power is an opportunity for you to pause and consider how you really see yourself: are you a volunteer victim or someone who looks out for your best interests–with integrity? If you feed (or feed on) negativity on a consistent basis, it can seem nearly impossible to feel you embody personal power.

Personal power is not a way of acting–it’s a way of BEing, even if you have to BEcome it one more-consciously-aware moment at a time.

Compare how much time you give to negative thoughts, feelings, words, and actions to the time you apply these to what makes you feel authentic, joyful, intentional, fulfilled–living on purpose.

No matter what’s going on around you, you always choose how to experience and process it. When you embrace this as a fact, you stand in your personal power. The more you do this, the more your innate power expands.

Feed negativity or feed intentional living. The choice is yours.

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About the Author:

Joyce Shafer (jls1422@yahoo.com) is a Life Empowerment Coach and Author of “Reinvent Yourself: Refuse to Settle for Less in Life and Business.”

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A sneak peek of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s  PBS special DR. WAYNE DYER: EXCUSES BEGONE! On the 10th anniversary of his first public television special, Dyer presents a program based on his newest book, “Excuses Begone!” After identifying the 18 most commonly used, self-defeating excuses, Dr. Dyer teaches viewers a method they can immediatly use to change damaging habits and move into new realms of possibility. You can help PBS continue to offer everyone — from every walk of life — the opportunity to experience amazing performances and explore new ideas through television and online content. To donate, please visit http://www.pbs.org/support

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Why do many of us fail to find happiness? Why do many of us fail to achieve our dreams? Why do we fail to create our own unique lifestyle?

The answer is because we have not yet mastered the art of taking time out.

You know the drill. When we are at work our thoughts are on problems at home, and when we are at home our thoughts are on the problems and challenges we encounter at work.

We do this day in and day out never noticing that our thoughts are more on what happened in the past or what may happen in the future. we get so attached to what happened yesterday and what may happen tomorrow that we never notice that TODAY is slipping past us. instead of getting something out of TODAY, we just go through the day.

oftentimes we hardly really listen to what our friends and family are saying , we may be listening but not really taking in the message because our thoughts are on yesterday and tomorrow.

We are everywhere but nowhere meaning not in the present moment. Being in the moment is where we can intentionally work on our thoughts and our ability to create.

Take time to savour the moment.

Take time out to listen to the silence within.

Take time out to connect with Friends and Family.

Take time out to connect with nature.

Take time out to create in the present moment

Take time out to create value for others.

Take time out to show gratitude for everything

Take time out to Just be

Dr Ken Onu CEO Attract Freedom    http://www.attractfreedom.com

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