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Ken Onu

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Do You Feed Negativity? – By Joyce Shafer   

When negativity knocks at your door, do you recognize it and send it away? Or do you invite it in for dinner, or worse, to stay with you as long as it likes–possibly for your lifetime?

First, be clear that being the manager of negativity in your life isn’t about the fact that you have negative thoughts or feelings–you will. It isn’t about eliminating negative thoughts and feelings so you never experience them again–that’s not realistic. It is about training your conscious mind to notice such thoughts and feelings when they appear, and to recognize the different “costumes” negativity wears. You can’t manage negativity until you recognize and own how you engage it.

Whatever costume negativity puts on, what’s really embodied is fear. You might call it anger or another emotion, but underlying any negative emotion is fear–the fear you’ll lose something. This has everything to do with living in your personal power.

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, “Natural anger lasts for only about seventeen seconds.” This means the actual emotion you feel (any negative emotion) has its full-charge expression for that period of time. Past that, your conscious (and subconscious) mind takes over, usually engaging in reactions related to whatever fear was triggered.

When fear is triggered, you may project a negative future vision. You may pull up old memories to support why you feel the way you do. You’d call this justification for the reaction. What it really is, is feeding negativity–because you aren’t focused on what you can do that’s productive; you’re focused on self-preservation at any cost. Depending on your habitual reaction mode, you may close up like a telescope or let your sharp claws and teeth out.

Here are several common forms of negativity you may feed (or feed on):
• Prejudice of ANY kind (race, religion, financial status, etc.)
• Demonstrating lack of self-respect or respect for others (if you do one, you do the other)
• Unproductive criticism (everyone needs to vent; but there’s a productive way to do this)
• Replaying past events as though they’re still happening (which only triggers more negative emotions in the present)
• Allowing more “news” into your life than you really need to know (this includes any form of “entertainment” or “information” that creates extraneous negative feelings for you about anything that doesn’t have a direct impact on your life or how you choose to engage it)
• Intentionally negative “humor” or comments (sadly, the ability to slam someone with hurtful words, directly or indirectly, is considered a prized trait)
• Paying more attention to what others are doing than what you’re doing
• Telling jokes or using comments to bash others (gender-bashing is top of this list)
• Stating speculations then acting as though they’re facts (ignoring that maybe you don’t have enough information)
• Using the words “always” and “never” (or labels), especially when you assign them to others’ behaviors (which closes your mind to allowing they “could” one day be different)

You can add more to this list as they occur to you. A good question to ask yourself whenever you do one of these is, “What fear is underneath this for me, and how can I address it appropriately?”

Feeding negativity is a learned habit. You can:
1. Acknowledge you engage in it.
2. Remind yourself to get your own attention about this. Author Guy Finley said, “No intention can be any stronger than our ability to remember it in the moment that it is needed.”
3. Start now to begin to do things differently. Choose to ask if your attitude, words, and actions are aligned with opening the path for a desired productive experience and outcome. There’s a difference in telling someone you feel angry and why and asking them to participate in a mutually beneficial resolution, and verbally attacking them. There’s a difference in telling yourself what you feel, why you feel it, and considering what you can do rather than entering the negative vortex.
4. Consider how you really see your authentic self. It isn’t that you have to suppress your personality or nature. It isn’t that you have to deny and keep quiet about what you really feel. It’s about what you do from there and how you do it. What do you really want to feed–as your experience and what you believe about yourself? If you don’t believe in your personal power, and right to live from it, how can you expect to act from there?

Train yourself to respond more often than you react; and acknowledge that will take conscious energy management. Reactions happen when you feel events or others have more power than you do. They don’t; that’s an illusion. They can only have as much power over you as you give them.

Any person or event that tests your personal power is an opportunity for you to pause and consider how you really see yourself: are you a volunteer victim or someone who looks out for your best interests–with integrity? If you feed (or feed on) negativity on a consistent basis, it can seem nearly impossible to feel you embody personal power.

Personal power is not a way of acting–it’s a way of BEing, even if you have to BEcome it one more-consciously-aware moment at a time.

Compare how much time you give to negative thoughts, feelings, words, and actions to the time you apply these to what makes you feel authentic, joyful, intentional, fulfilled–living on purpose.

No matter what’s going on around you, you always choose how to experience and process it. When you embrace this as a fact, you stand in your personal power. The more you do this, the more your innate power expands.

Feed negativity or feed intentional living. The choice is yours.

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About the Author:

Joyce Shafer (jls1422@yahoo.com) is a Life Empowerment Coach and Author of “Reinvent Yourself: Refuse to Settle for Less in Life and Business.”

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A sneak peek of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s  PBS special DR. WAYNE DYER: EXCUSES BEGONE! On the 10th anniversary of his first public television special, Dyer presents a program based on his newest book, “Excuses Begone!” After identifying the 18 most commonly used, self-defeating excuses, Dr. Dyer teaches viewers a method they can immediatly use to change damaging habits and move into new realms of possibility. You can help PBS continue to offer everyone — from every walk of life — the opportunity to experience amazing performances and explore new ideas through television and online content. To donate, please visit http://www.pbs.org/support

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Why do many of us fail to find happiness? Why do many of us fail to achieve our dreams? Why do we fail to create our own unique lifestyle?

The answer is because we have not yet mastered the art of taking time out.

You know the drill. When we are at work our thoughts are on problems at home, and when we are at home our thoughts are on the problems and challenges we encounter at work.

We do this day in and day out never noticing that our thoughts are more on what happened in the past or what may happen in the future. we get so attached to what happened yesterday and what may happen tomorrow that we never notice that TODAY is slipping past us. instead of getting something out of TODAY, we just go through the day.

oftentimes we hardly really listen to what our friends and family are saying , we may be listening but not really taking in the message because our thoughts are on yesterday and tomorrow.

We are everywhere but nowhere meaning not in the present moment. Being in the moment is where we can intentionally work on our thoughts and our ability to create.

Take time to savour the moment.

Take time out to listen to the silence within.

Take time out to connect with Friends and Family.

Take time out to connect with nature.

Take time out to create in the present moment

Take time out to create value for others.

Take time out to show gratitude for everything

Take time out to Just be

Dr Ken Onu CEO Attract Freedom    http://www.attractfreedom.com

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Achieving Success is a Mind game. If you know what you want and can hold the vision in your mind long enough..while taking the appropriate action steps towards your goal….then your success will be absolutely guaranteed. Here are 10 ways to make sure it happens

1. Find Your Passion
1. Know what you want! What are you passionate about? What could you do 24/7 and not feel tired or upset? That’s what you should be doing.

2. Believe In You
Believe you can have it! Believing you can have something starts by believing in your self. Healthy self esteem is absolutely necessary to achieve whatever you want in life. Believe it is possible for you! Never let anyone’s opinion of you affect your reality.

3. Plan
Devise a plan to achieve whatever it is you are after. Be specific, Make sure it is balanced. Be willing to learn. Visualize your goals

4. When will you accomplish it?
Set a deadline! A goal without a deadline is simply a wish.

5. Be Responsible
5. Accept total responsibility for your life. Never blame anyone or anything for situations or events in your life.

6. Be Happy
Be happy to serve other people. Find ways to put a smile on their face. Always put a smile on yours.

7. Expect Success
Live in a state of constant confident expectation. “If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams, and endeavor to live the life which you have imagined, you will meet with success unexpected in common hours.” (Henry David Thoreau).

8. Gratitude is Key
Be Grateful! Count all your blessings. Focus on what you already have. Focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want.

9. Avoid the Mind trap
Watch your thoughts! Watch your self talk! Watch the way you talk to yourself. Always affirm that you love, accept, believe, acknowledge, support and appreciate yourself.

10. Take Action
Act!!! Always seek to WIN! W- Willing attitude! I –(Take the) Initiative! N – Never give up!

So you now know what to do. Go out and make it happen!

Dr. Ken Onu is the founder of Attract Freedom and Spread the Word Inc. An organization with the sole purpose of empowering others to personal and financial freedom. He is a Keynote Speaker, Coach, Eye doctor, and Successful Entrepreneur. What he speaks about comes from the core of his soul. He inspires and empowers audiences to eradicate “possibility blindness” from their lives.

So you now know what to do. Go out and make it happen!

Responsibility is defined as having the ability to respond to any situation or event. If someone angers you, it is always within your control to choose your response. It is your choice.

Disasters do not depress people, it is how we process the disasters that may or may not depress us. Remember..that nothing outside of you can make you unhappy, stressed or depressed. It is only your state of mind.

Usually holding on to something that has happened in the past or worrying about something that may or may not happen in the future causes depression and anxiety. When you take responsibility for how you feel, everything changes. You respond instead of react.

Anger is just an emotion. Emotions are controlled by our feelings which are controlled by our thoughts.

Think good thoughts  and you will have no cause to be angry even when someone tries to make you angry.

If there is anything outside of you that you feel is keeping you back, just check again. It is really something inside of you that is keeping you back. You own it (the problem that is) , because you have chosen to hold on to it. Its like passing a ball from one person to another. Whoever has the ball owns it in that moment.

All you have to do is let go of the ball and you are free.  You are the sum total of all the choices you have made in your life.  Its so important to live with a NO BLAME policy.

Keep in mind that there are no coincidences in life. There are also no limits. Its the attitude you choose in the moment that drives you.

So let go . The best way to leave your feelings of anger and resentment behind is to think only about what you are grateful for . Count your blessings before you earn the right to one feeling of anger.

Learn to control your thoughts. You will be absolutely amazed how much that can change you

Ken Onu

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